Popping the question for a 2nd, 3rd, or even 4th time may have you questioning your sanity, but whoever said that being in love was the act of a sane person? All levity aside and speaking as someone who knows (married 25 years the first time around) finding love and happiness again is a very serious subject!
We are, after all, the “majority” compared to those first and only one-time married persons out there. Right about now, you may be asking where I’m going with this. You’ll be glad to know that it’s not the words of wisdom and relationship advice pitch. No, it’s a bit simpler than that. We are going to talk about tips for finding the perfect engagement ring for starting over.
A New Day Needs a New Perspective
You’ve already decided to take the plunge again, and hopefully you are off to a great start. I’m sure you remember years ago when it was common to consider “three months’ salary”. Then there was the storyline of having your future mother in law dragging you to “her jeweler” while sitting over your shoulder giving unwanted advice.
Some of you may have gone it alone picking out that ugly pear shape, and worse yet guessing she was a size 9 when she was a petite size 6? That didn’t end well, did it? Guys, are you remembering some of this?
Anyway, trying to get serious, what are some good tips on finding the right ring? First off relax and enjoy the experience. When it comes to deciding whether to include her in the hunt or not, ask yourself, is a surprise ring the best thing to do? Only you will know that answer, but it always pays to communicate and listen.
Communicate and Listen to Her
Being older and wiser, you know that “better communication” and the novel idea of “listening” are in order for second-time love. For example, when it comes to a ring, what hints has she been giving you?
Whether you decide to go it alone or not, you’ll need to pick a jeweler. We’re not talking about anything like the last time where you went looking for that bogus 60-percent off discount in the mall with five years interest free financing. This is about picking the jeweler with as much care as you exercise for picking the ring.
Picking a Jeweler: Choose Accredited, Experienced, and Versatile
When it comes to picking a jeweler, we’re talking about a jeweler that has an impeccable reputation and has quality at a good price. This is one time when communicating with close friends and family can be advantageous when you choose the jeweler that friends and coworkers rave about. The jeweler that everyone else trusts is a jeweler that you can trust and put your faith in to be there before, during, and after the sale.
It’s important to pick a jeweler that does work right on the premises, so that any adjustments that may be needed can be done quickly, efficiently, and easily. Go to a jeweler that has graduate gemologists on staff that really knows their stuff.
Do Your Homework, But Listen to the Experts
It’s imperative that you do your homework. When you choose a jeweler that has a long history of experience and successful service, it’s a good idea to take advantage of their knowledge. Listen to their consult and go with classic styles, which is what a better jeweler will suggest. After all, like your marriage, you want this ring to last a long second time around.
Spend an Amount That Makes You Comfortable
It’s imperative that you spend an amount that you feel comfortable with. Choose a jeweler that doesn’t work on commission and is interested in you and being part of this exciting new journey you are starting. After all you deserve to be very, very happy. Good luck!
Have questions or want to learn more about finding the perfect ring? Give Earth Treasures a call at 732-542-5444 today!